I’m in the home stretch of reading The Power of Now; I’ve got about 60 pages left. I thought I would get through the whole book without another post until the end, but for this last chapter, I just have to.
In this chapter, Tolle writes about relationships, zoning in on love relationships, as he calls them. This was of most interest to me because I’m in a serious relationship. My boyfriend and I celebrated our 3rd anniversary last weekend and in attempt to ease his stress and help him be the best version of himself, I try to sprinkle these bits of spiritual fairy dust on him as often as possible.
However, as I read, I initially took issue with his constantly referring to relationships as man and woman. I mean, at one point, I felt quite uncomfortable and wanted to scream into the pages that a relationship, not only does not have to be between a man and woman, but between people who don’t identify with any gender, or with both! So I was getting a little perturbed. And then I remembered what Tolle said about words: “A word is no more than a means to an end. It is an abstraction. Not unlike a signpost, it points beyond itself.” So I came to realize that it is possible that Tolle was merely discussing man and woman, not as a human with a penis and a human with a vagina, but a human with a predominately masculine energy and a human with a predominately feminine energy.
This rationale works up until a certain point, when Tolle begins to discuss the “collective female pain-body” which is only relevant to those who are anatomically female. He explains:
This consists of accumulated pain suffered by women partly through male subjugation of the female, through slavery, exploitation, rape, childbirth, child loss, and so on over thousands of years.
Of course, I read with a resounding “PREACH!” buzzing between my ears. And Tolle goes on to discuss menstruation – the ultimate collective female pain-body, in my opinion. I won’t get into detail because I don’t want to give away all of the good stuff, but I will say that I am, for one, extremely happy about a male speaking on menstruation with thought and consideration. Of course, he would; he’s Eckhart Tolle, but it has been rare in my personal experience for me to witness a male have an objective point of view, and some profound input, spiritual teacher, or not!
So after I complete this section of the chapter, feeling like a Goddess and looking forward to turning my next period into “radiant consciousness”, (though I am a bit skeptical and even wrote in my book “We’ll see about that!”) I had reached for my little book mark, when the word “gay” caught my eye. Finally! I put my bookmark down and read because I had been so turned off by his reference to relationships as “man and woman” that I was extremely curious to know how Tolle approached being gay, and shocker: done so without judgement. Thank goodness! I think I have been so used to religion excluding people that even though Tolle doesn’t speak for a specific religion, I still expected it and I am glad that I was wrong.
That’s my two to four cents on that. I have a lot of love for this book and it has been doing a lot for me over the last few days as I’ve plowed through it. I am already formulating a plot for my last post on this book that will likely be tomorrow!